I watched a video and read this recently in the Hollis Co Next 90 Days that they are doing and it really hit home and made me think. As I read what each one was and said about the person, it really made me think and realize how much brain injury has truly changed me. Before my TBI, I definitely lived the life of a NonEssentialist always on the go, packing in as much as possible in the day, it all was important and honestly I often didn’t stop to think. I don’t remember feeling overwhelmed and exhausted though, that’s something I feel now but just because of the brain injury. I don’t think I felt exhausted and overwhelmed because I got good sleep, exercised a lot and was choosing to do it all and wanted to, but I definitely lived life like a non essentialist.
Since my brain injury, I definitely live as an essentialist now. Maybe because I’m forced too with how much this injury changed my life, my energy and abilities. I think it also changed me in really slowing down and seeing what is important and is not important now. I only have so much energy and so much to give of me in a day before I really fall apart in negative, unsafe and unhealthy ways. So I definitely think post traumatic brain injury I have definitely become an essentialist. I also feel that almost losing my life, losing who I was before, losing friends and hobbies also really made my view of the world and what’s important and not important or worth my time totally different. It’s not a bad thing, but it was definitely a wake up call and really made me reevaluate my life and what is important and no longer really was important.
NonEssentialist- Definitely Me Before TBI
Thinks: All things to all people: I Have to, It’s all important, how can I fit it all in?
Does: The undisciplined pursuit of more: Reacts to what’s most pressing, says yes to people without really thinking, tries to force execution at the last moment
Gets: Lives a life that does not satisfy: Takes on too much and work suffers, feels out of control, is unsure of whether the right thing got done, feels overwhelmed and exhausted
Essentialist – Definitely Me Now
Thinks: Less But Better: I choose to, Only a few things really matter, what are the trade-offs?
Does: The Disciplined Pursuit Of Less: Pauses to discern what really matters, Says NO to everything except the essential, Removes obstacles to make execution easy
Gets: Lives A Life That Really Matters: Chooses carefully in order to do great work, feels in control, Gets the right things done, Experiences the joy in the journey
This was so interesting to read and learn. It really was great information for me and put a lot of things into perspective. It makes me sad that I had to have a severe brain injury and go through something so life changing to grow, but at the same time I am so thankful for it and for growing from it. Of course I wish it didn’t happen, and also if I didn’t come out of it as well as I did, I highly doubt I would feel this way, but I am thankful to learn from it and become a better person because of it. I definitely have learned the best thing I can do for myself is take this hard and life changing experience and truly change my life and be so grateful daily to be where I am and that I have survived something I shouldn’t have and beat the odds. When you think of it like that, like how I medically should be right now, it’s hard to have a bad day and negative outlook on it all. Of course not everyday is easy and some days are bad, but the majority of the time I am able to keep a positive mindset about all this. What’s done is done, I just need to keep on going and live the best life I can.