My TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury) happened. I’m not glad it happened, but it happened and I lived and am here to tell you what this injury and experience has taught me. Here are all the positive things I have taken from this injury over the last two years. I challenge you to find the positives in the negative things that happen to you, it really is amazing what it does when you reframe your mind and find the good in even the bad. Mindset is huge and transformative.
➕ I understand my son now. He had a chiari malformation as and hydrocephalus as an infant, he had surgery by a neurosurgeon and has had years of speech therapy. I learned this is a type of brain injury. I see so many things I do now that he does. I understand his overwhelm, I understand his slow processing, I understand how he does not understand sarcasm because neither do I. I just understand my son differently than I ever have before.
➕Being fully present. TBI slowed me down a lot. It really helped me learn to be more present. It also helped me to decided what’s worth my time and energy and what’s not. It showed me how fast your life can change and that it’s important to be present in your life. Like it’s Saturday, not my weekend with Jax but my dad is picking me up to go play baseball at the park with them and watch his baseball coaching session. I am sure old Jessy would be out of town, riding a dirt bike or doing something else. But my priorities have definitely changed and I’m going to spend time with my dad and son.
➕Who is really there for me. This injury and experience has really showed us who is there for us no matter what, and to go with the last one of being present has really taught me who deserves our time and energy, so I really make more of an effort with those friends and new ones I have made in my incredible brain injury community.
➕This accident and injury has really showed me that the man I married 10 months before my accident is truly the man for me and that he was the right choice and would be there through thick and thin no matter what. I can’t imagine what he went through, I acknowledge what he goes through every day with me and all that he has given up and sacrificed for me. He truly is the definition of an amazing husband. He’s not perfect, but he’s approachable and when we have issues, usually due to me misunderstanding or just him being tired and overwhelmed with life, we talk it through. Sometimes that means I storm off and happen to take a nap, then we talk. But either way we talk it out, how we both are feeling and why. It’s important and key in our marriage.
➕This accident fully woke us up in the financial realm. What truly is important, what is not important and how best do we plan for life and the future feeling financially solid. If something happens to my income, it doesn’t matter. I don’t have a reliable income and we have made sure we are ok without one since my accident. If Chris ever lost his income, again we will be ok. We have a savings, we own our home and we still have a few things that we own outright that we can sell. The accident definitely hit my head and it kinda caused us to wake up! We can still live our life and do what we love but feel a lot more financially secure.
➕Through covid and stay at home orders I have been able to stay home. We didn’t see anyone, I mean anyone for months with the exception of my dad and Jax. The old me never could of done that! I am amazed I could do it and am thankful I did and and was ok with it. Feb-June we saw my dad a couple times, my father in law and that’s it in person. The weekend of mid June we finally saw some other people. Months later. I haven’t sat here and complained about it, it’s life and brain injury so prepared us for this. I still had human connection through zoom, snail 🐌 mail, texting, face time and phone calls. Another positive from a negative.
Those are just a few of the positives from a very negative situation. It really did change our life, I can’t say it ruined our life though. It just changed it very much and in a good way. Of course I miss my old life and I’m sure my husband does too, but we are ok with what life has given us.